Bullying in Video Games

Video games- I love video games. Most of them are incredibly fun, and have a lot artistic and emotional value. However, they also hold one area of calamity, hate, and bigotry: Multiplayer.

Similar to cyber-bullying, where messages and hate get spread across the internet, video game bullying is handed out over video games, specifically in multiplayer. A good example is the messages spread around Xbox Live, the online gaming service provided by Microsoft. The private messaging with this service allows free messaging that is completely unrestricted and unmonitored,(unless a parent changes something in the system/family settings) allowing for bullying at a level that is limited only by the senders imagination. There is a report function, but a few bullying messages usually don’t provoke Microsoft’s attention.

An example of video game bullying that I commonly see is ‘trolling.’ This is a type of bullying where someone or many someones mess with one or several other people by saying or doing something to receive an angry response, with the hope that the other will receive any repercussions. A youtube video I once watched showed four boys over the age of fourteen trolling a seven year old. They were all playing minecraft, and the teenagers were finding various ways to mess with him. The video basically ended with the boy sobbing and calling them jerks. That is the perfect example of the bullying in video games.

Try asking yourself how you can stop this bullying. If someone is trolling you and other people, assure the other people receiving the trolling that not feeding a troll’s endless pit of hunger is the best option. You, yourself; find a way to report whoever is doing this trolling.

Trolls don’t care about any emotion they receive except for anger. Be sure to give them something quite opposite.

Thanks for reading,


Cyber-Bullying versus Bullying

What a controversial, back-and-forth topic. Cyber-bullying…There are thousands of different opinions and views on them…Some including ‘It’s worse than bullying,’ ‘They’re on the same level,’ ‘What is cyber-bullying,’ and ‘Cyber-bullying is a myth.’ (The final of which stuns me.)


If your answer would be the fourth, let me give you the dictionary definition, and my definition.


Dictionary Definition: the electronic posting of mean-spirited messages about a person (as a student) often done anonymously- http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cyber-bullying

My Definition: Bullying given to others through the use of technological devices,(such as phones, social media, and chatrooms.) often in a higher level of vulgarity or violence than normal bullying.

The difference between Cyber-bullying and Bullying is that it’s behind a screen; when someone is not looking another person in the face, they have a lot more confidence that no action will be taken against them, and thus, they feel the need to say whatever they wish, and this can really affect people. A huge difference is that so many creative things can be done with Cyber-bullying. Multiple facebook pages can be made hating on someone, they can spam someone’s youtube, twitter, etc.(I don’t use most social medias, so I don’t know the names) to hurt another, and people can create entire websites just to spite one person.


Cyber-bullying is home to many suicides.


…His(Polk County Sheriff Grady Judd) client and the other girl¬† were arrested in October, more than a month after Rebecca Sedwick jumped to her death from a cement plant tower after enduring what police described as months of verbal, physical and online bullying…


…Two students from separate schools committed suicide within days of each other this month — which is National Bullying Prevention Month(October) — and both boys apparently had been bullied. Now, parents are asking questions not just about bullying but also about anti-bullying videos, which both schools aired shortly before the incidents…


Cyber-bullying has been ignored by a lot as just another form that needs to be dealt with like Bullying- This isn’t true! A conversation, an apology, mediation, whatever- It is gone from a bullies minds after they’re home behind a computer screen, especially if they’re with their friends. This is an ineffective way to deal with it–It needs harsher, less leeway-ish punishments that get the message across- NO.


When you see or hear about cyber-bullying, do something. Don’t let it sit, and don’t let someone be pushed around and stepped on without the problem actually being stopped.


My message is the same as always–Don’t let it sit.


Don’t stand by— Step up.



Bullying- Social vs. Academic

I remember one way I used to deal with bullies was to use logic. If I send a ton of complicated, big-worded, politically correct statements, it overflows their brain, and they can’t bully as well.




Well, one thing I discovered was that when I flood them with logic, they only become more riled up; they start thinking I’m trying to sound smarter than them, and it feeds their want to take away my level of intelligence. That is why I stopped using Academic logic to stop bullying.


A social bullying skill is something like diffusing the situation by stepping back and walking away or telling a friend you don’t appreciate a joke in a friendly way.(Captain Kirk) An academic bullying skill is something like diffusing the situation by referencing problems and new ideas from classes and knowledge you have obtained or telling a friend you don’t appreciate a joke by trying to deconstruct the joke with logical statements and literal thinking.(Mr. Spock)

Let’s give an example of both.


Todd: Hey! Don’t shove me like that, you dumb loser! Watch where you’re going!

Aron: Dude, I didn’t shove you. I wouldn’t do that to someone I don’t know.

Todd: Yeah, right! You shoved right into me! I’m sure both of my friends saw it! Right?

Ben: Yeah, he shoved you.

Justin: Yeah, I saw it.

Aron: Look, sorry if you think I shoved you, but I didn’t. I hope you can still have a nice day.(Walks away.)


In this scenario, Aron, the believed antagonist of the situation, tries to diffuse the scenario by taking a peaceful approach and choosing peaceful words that don’t blame himself, but don’t put the blame on anyone else. He ends by walking away, giving Todd time to reflect on the situation to try and see the story again from his eyes.

Let’s take a look at a logic based example.


Todd: Hey! Don’t shove me like that, you dumb loser! Watch where you’re going!

Aron: Dude, I didn’t shove you. I was too far away.

Todd: Yeah, right! You shoved right into me! I’m sure both of my friends saw it! Right?

Ben: Yeah, he shoved you.

Justin: Yeah, I saw it.

Aron: Look, I didn’t shove you. I was on the other side of the hallway. There’s just no way I was the one who shoved you!

Todd: Yeah, you did! You better say you’re sorry, or I am going to tell the security card you’re trying to bully me!

Aron: I didn’t shove you! I was on the other side of the hall! There’s no way it was me!

Todd: (Storms off with Ben and Justin, reporting Aron.)

In this scenario, Aron has tried to shove the blame onto someone else by stating he was not close enough to shove Todd. There is no way to prove this without getting some witness or video tape(which wouldn’t be used for such a situation) and leaves the blame unaccounted for. This is an example of a bad way to handle a situation.


Social and Academic bullying skills are to be used differently— A good time for Academic bullying skills is while competing against another team or student, and state(whether you win or lose) that it is a simple game to improve your Academic skills.



Family Bullying

Have you ever sat around at home, talking with your parents about something serious, and suddenly one of them says something very mean?


This is not a very specific thought; it can mean a lot. A parent tells you to leave, a parent tells you just to ‘deal with it,’ a parent tells you ‘too bad…’ Almost everyone has been there. Family bullying is worse than school/work bullying; it is often the cause of a bully being formed in the very first place.

A common form of Family Bullying is when a child is seeking help from an older brother, sister, parent, or older adult. The child is in desperate need of this help, but the response might be to ‘toughen up’ or to ‘deal with it.’ Shockingly(to me, at the least) this is most common among the parents and adults. This shocks me, as they are the most influential source of character for a child.


A brother or sister usually is more prone to such a response; a response such as ‘Go throw your problems in someone else’s face,’ or ‘Is that my problem?’

This bullying is such a serious issue because the people we rely on the most are throwing away our problems like nothing. This is a common cause of depression, which is the most common disease among teenagers in all of America. A good way to prevent this is, if you are an adult, a brother, a sister, an uncle, an aunt, a mother, a father, or any other figure in a child’s life, is to offer as much support as you can without solving someone’s problems for them; guide them on their path to self-confidence and assurance in their own ability. If you are a child or teenager, the best thing for you is to let go of the belief that everything that is thrown at your feet has to be dealt with using your own feet; there are others out there who will help you get through the hardest of situations. A consular, a parent, a friend, a teacher…You aren’t alone. Anyone can help; I can help; Just don’t believe you are alone.


Don’t stand by- Step Up.




Viruses…most of us experience them. I just did. My computer has been down for about two months because of one virus. I am, however, back, and hope to soon be actively posting and repay the lack of posting I have given to my followers.

Thanks for staying with your friendly Anti-Bully.


Response to Daily Prompt: Too Soon

Can anything be funny, or are some things off limits?


All the readers of my blog can probably assume I will be talking about bullying in this post. There are plenty of times when jokes or simple comments are taken to far and boundaries aren’t realized at the right point. There are jokes I am stunned to hear that I’ve heard in the first year of middle school. There was a joke I am too uncertain of typing up because I do not want any younger readers to see the joke, but that should give you an idea. I don’t want to type it up because of it’s content.


If I am with a group of friends and someone says I joke I feel or believe is too far, I will say so. When I’m with friends, I expect they will respect my wish for the joke to be left alone. It’s easy to be in a group of friends, be having a great time, and then let something slip that you thought would work out but didn’t.


I think it is critical that the person acknowledge this mistake, so that it can be accepted as a mistake and then left alone, so the group of friends can easily move on from this slip up.


My personal opinion…things like making fun of homeless citizens, general bullying, hating on, say, the city council/department for failing to do something, and general heckling of anyone or thing. There are exceptions, of course, but they are few and far between.



Response to Daily Prompt: P.C.

Is political correctness a useful concept, or does it stifle honest discussion?


Political correctness has it’s own use in it’s own way. It is good at some points, while it simply hinders and hurts conversation in other places. If I am having an interview for my first job with an interviewer, I’m going to be politically correct; if I am sitting somewhere with a group of my good friends, I am going to focus on having fun, not being politically correct. This would rid lots of fun from discussions if I did not go along with nonsensical jokes. However, I have my own boundaries to watch. I will not stoop to a level of insulting a disadvantages group because of a joke.


Political correctness is something you use and apply in a case-by-case basis.



Bullying and Music

I’ve many times heard a friend or acquaintance of mine venting about a bullying experience. I do my best to help, or at least comfort them. Many times, the next day or so, I will ask this friend/acquaintance what they did when they got home that day. I often here ‘I went home and listened to music/my mp3/ my iPod.’ I immediately follow this up with ‘How loud was the music?’ And, every single time I have heard something along the lines of “Loud/Sorta loud, i dunno/Really loud.” This is not a good thing.


When we get home and are angry about an experience in the day, and listen to extraneously loud music,(whether it’s about a violent theme or not) it often feeds into and focuses on that anger, and therefore does not allow the human a change to think out his emotions and solve he situation in his mind(or seek help)


Many fall back on music to calm them from a long day of hardship or difficulty. When we listen to this loud, sometimes violent music, and our focus is placed on our anger, it is actually unhealthy for us–this unthinking state that prevents our minds from being able to gather our thoughts and emotions, and, if we are in this state for too long, can carry over to the next day, causing a worse day after the initial anger and situations–this leads to being an easier target of bullying and harrassment. So…


Let’s take a step back. That’s a lot of effect just by listening to some music. Moral of the story, watch what you do to handle your anger–it is not bad to be angry; It is bad to feed your anger and strengthen it for a worse cause.

Bullying? Try some new things.

Recently, I signed up for a program that introduces high school students to multiple areas of college work. It is not at all hard work, simple areas of work with most easy and some challenging activities that you are guided through. The program is very interesting to me, and I really enjoy it.


One thing I’ve noticed is how nice about 95% of the students are. I’ve had one single incident of bullying the whole time, and I easily shrugged the kid off with “that is your opinion,” to which his words turned into mumbles and stumbling sentences. This brought to my mind something I hadn’t realized before, of which I want to share with everyone who takes time out of their day to read my blog.


Taking this class that goes along with the program has opened my eyes to something after seeing how polite and friendly most of the other people in the class are. I decided I would try something new that I enjoyed(Introduction to 2D Computer Programming : D) and I have since made two or three good acquaintances. While these acquaintances may not turn into friendships or friendly bonds, the fact that I’ve met such good people in three days of this program has shocked me to a quite high level.


My advice to you the reader, if you feel you are in a place with few friends and little to do, or even just a little free time, to try something new. Go join a community center that practices art. Go learn to play guitar. Drums. just go do something new that will introduce you to a new area of study, enjoyment, fun, entertainment, or even just occupation.


Learning about the programming has given me three benefits- Getting out of the house, making several new acquaintances, and learning how to program simple 2D games. I am enjoying doing something new, and I am positive you will too.